Don't be Afraid to Ask for Help

Don't be Afraid to Ask for Help | Lemon and the Sea: It's never a bad thing to not know something as long as you're willing to find out the answer.

You may be thinking that you have to do it all on your own - that asking for help means that you're incapable of running your business successfully. I've been there and I'm here to tell you that asking for help doesn't mean you're weak - it means that you're ready to grow.

Figuring it All Out

When I first started my blog, I thought that I had to do everything - write blog posts, work with clients, be active on social media, design all my worksheets, manage my money - all on my own. I truly believed that only the super successful could get help with any of those things and only because they had done it themselves when they started out.

I was overwhelmed, exhausted, and really confused. I had no idea what I was doing (especially when it came to taxes) and couldn't seem to move forward in my business.

I was caught in a trap that I now see is all too common - we believe, especially as women, that we have to do it all ourselves or it means that we're failures. We don't want to look weak or inexperienced, so we don't ask for help and instead struggle through whatever we're doing.

Asking for Help Isn't Weakness

It wasn't until I sat down and tried to figure out how to make my business legal and deal with taxes that I finally gave in to the need to get help. I remember it clearly - I was sitting at my desk, struggling to fill out IRS paperwork, not knowing if I even had the right forms - when my husband came in and told me that we should just hire an accountant. For him, it was that easy. He knew that figuring it out for ourselves wasn't worth my time or stress and that it would be easy to spend a little more money to have everything done correctly.

Asking for help didn't mean I was weak - it just meant that someone else had a skill in an area that I didn't.

Hiring Someone vs. Free Help

It's pretty cut and dry when you're hiring someone to help you. Find someone who has a skill that you don't and hand over that part of your business (of course, make sure you're comfortable with working with them and that they have a good reputation).

It gets a bit trickier when you're asking for free advice or help.

When asking for free advice, you need to make sure that you're not asking for something that you should be paying for. For example, I don't mind giving quick critiques and suggestions on design, but I'm not going to make a logo mock-up for you just because you asked.

Asking for feedback or constructive criticism in a business group is totally okay. Even asking for an introduction from someone you've connected with is great. But requesting that an accountant fix up your books for free is not so good.

Don't let fear stop you

As long as what you're asking for is in the realm of okay, go ahead and just send that email or message. The answer may be no, but it could also be yes! You never know until you ask.

When have you asked for help?